Goal Setter, Reporting to Duty!

Today, I feel at peace. There are many days that I struggle with the process of my life. I struggle because I often wonder if I am in the right direction and following my desires. I have never been told that I can not or that I am unable to do something.

I do not only have the benefit of a wonderful supportive family, but the benefit of having a wonderful husband, my Marine. He is great, because he often helps me reach my goals by being selfless and extremely supportive. My Marine works hard everyday in order for me to reach my own goals and the goals we have for each other. Also, my marine often understands that my identity is not only “Marine Wife”, but that I have multiple identities.

However, no matter how driven I am I have days where I struggle. I struggle with choosing who I want to be. Nonetheless, I should realize and accept that I do not have control over every aspect in my life. OHH, and believe me I try to have all the control, but I need to open my eyes and accept that I may need to allow my life to float with the wind.

I should accept what God, my Marine and my family has given me. I believe this is not only a struggle for me, but several woman in this world. Many woman only believe that they should identify with only one title. This makes all of us feel like we have failed in some areas of our life. This feeling can be daunting!

Ladies and gentlemen, I would like for each of you to list all of your identities and make goals for each one of them. We do not have to choose one and we can complete everything we put our minds to. I wish you the best of luck!!

With Love,

Marine Wife Reporting to Duty.

Homemaker, Reporting to duty!!

Hello Ladies, Happy Monday!!! Hope you all are having a great day. Mine has been going well. However, I would like to admit a nap in my peaceful bedroom and a hug and kiss from my Marine would be fabulous. Nonetheless, I have to be a big girl and work!!

Working is something that comes in many forms. I work at my job and then I work at making my house a home. This job is particularly important to me and has become something that my Marine loves.

Growing up the house I lived in, and the home my parents still live in was made into a home by my mother. Everything in the house is created and chosen with love. The house resembles not only my mother, but she chose pieces that resembles who we are as a family. These things make the home special.

Creating a home is something that I enjoy. I do have a background in Interior Design, but I have grown to understand that designing/decorating a house and creating a home are different. Designing and decorating a home is cosmetic, but creating a home is personal.

I spend many hours finding the special object that goes in each nook of my home. I would like to say that I have one type of style, but I would be lying. I thoroughly enjoy finding items that fit the personalities and love that my Marine and I resemble.

Many times people will come to our home and ask me to recreate what I have done in their own space. However, I try to explain that it is impossible, because everyone’s home should be different and resemble their family and their lifestyle. I am always more then willing to help someone create their own home. Nonetheless, if I was to do it without personally understanding the client, I would only be decorating the home.

Many designers and decorators feel comfortable with  designing and decorating without acknowledging personalities and preferences. I prefer creating an oasis, a place that generates love, comfort and acceptance.

When you began purchasing items for your home you do not have to buy what is popular. You should find items that you develop a connection, that you truly resembles who you are as a person or a family. Then continue to purchase other items that enhance the larger items in your home. Once, you begin this process you will begin to create a space that is welcoming and makes you feel home.

Also, when finding objects for your home you do not need to spend a lot. I find many of my items at antique stores, TJMaxx, Target, on sale at Pottery Barn, Home Goods and anywhere that has great items with great prices.

I would love all of you to post pictures of spaces in your home that feel like home. Then send me photos of other spaces that you dislike and are not making you feel comfortable. I would love to see the differences and then we could work together to create the perfect space.

With Love,

Marine wife reporting to duty

Wanna’ be Yogi , Reporting to Duty!

Hey, Hey Heeeeey Everyone!! Hope you all are having a great day. Today, it is beautiful here in NC and my day has begun in a beautiful fashion. I have to admit I do miss my Marine terribly, but it was nice being able to have a morning to myself and not be subconsciously forced to attend his Saturday Morning softball game ( don’t worry I do enjoy the games and watching him play). So instead of church league softball, I was able to have my morning cup of Starbucks Coffee and small slice of bread before I headed to my HOT YOGA CLASS.

My Hot Yoga Journey has been interesting. When I first heard of Hot Yoga I was working at Urban Environments in Chicago, and my boss, Kim Chapman told me about Hot Bikram Yoga’s GREAT POWERS. I often spent many afternoons watching Kim show me the poses and explaining how it would change my life. However, at the time I believed she was “bat-shit crazy” and neurotic. Over and over, I kept asking myself why I would want to be in a room where it is over 96 degrees, sweat my ass off, refuse myself water and force myself into impossible moves/poses.

I have to admit the idea of Hot Yoga or Hot Bikram Yoga seems terrible, but the practice and its rewards ARE Powerful. I began my practice at the beginning of January 2014. When I first took the Hot Yoga class I had sweat running over all areas of my body and I fell out of many of the poses. It was absolutely gross, but when there were moments where I was able to get deeper into a pose or stick the pose it was extremely rewarding.

Now, I practice all forms of yoga and I challenge myself to get better during each practice.  While I was in Knoxville, TN I attended classes at Real Hot Yoga which in my opinion is a more modern and fast pace studio. Now, I practice at A Hopeful Balance in New Bern, NC which again in my opinion is a more  individualized, and therapeutic studio. Both have been great in furthering my practice and I suggest either if you are in either location.

Both studios taught me to accept myself and my practice. This has allowed me to have no judgment (which is a yoga lesson) and that yoga is a personal Journey, as is life. The classes are not only exercise for me but they are my therapy.

Another aspect that has helped me become more comfortable and positive in my Yoga Practice has been my Marine. Through out, the week he works out and PT’s multiple times. Often, I get down on myself, because I am not as athletic or fit as him. However, through out my yoga journey I have learned and accepted that we are different. Also, I have slowly begun to accept and understand that men’s and women’s bodies do work differently when it comes to exercise. I am appreciative that my Marine has helped me learn this and I am grateful that he continues to help me learn.

Today, I challenge all of you to push yourself to do something that you might be afraid of or that you feel you may be unable to complete. I want you to do it without judgment and I want you to share it with someone you love.

Have a fab DAY!!!

Marine Wife Reporting to Duty

Fashionista, Reporting to Duty!

Today, when I woke up it was 53 degrees. If “y’all” live in the south you know that this is a unique temperature. If you don’t then fall has already reached you and your wardrobe has already changed. However, as you know I live in the south (North Carolina) and I have been praying for fall weather in order to change my wardrobe.

Most days I struggle, because I want to wear one of my many polka-dotted sweaters, or  striped skirts, or maybe even a simple dress with embroidered stalkings. Nonetheless, it is always too hot and I end up sweating and it ruins my appearance and better yet my MOOD.

Sometimes, during this heat I text my Marine and I request a move, but I am being unrealistic. Although, I  know it is an impossible request,i still manage to complain. However, this morning there was no complaining and I was unable to text or call my Marine and tell him about the beautiful fall weather in the air.

Instead of feeling alone in the cool weather, I went to my closet and I began deciding on a perfect fall outfit. I scraped through my many JCrew sweaters, Loft leggings, among other various clothing items. Then I found the perfect Theory Skirt, Cato leather Jacket, TJMAXX bedazzled Necklace, and Lucky Brand Boots. All of which, I probably purchased on sale!! After, I put the outfit together and put it on I began to feel beautiful.

This feeling is something that I often do not find myself feeling. Most of the time my Marine tells me many times throughout the day, but I am still unable to feel beautiful in all aspects of my life. However, there are those rare moments where I feel beautiful and usually it is when I thoroughly enjoy my outfit or have created something I enjoy.

I know many of you Military wives also have moments where you do not feel beautiful or when you feel gross. However, we must all find something within ourselves that makes us enjoy who we are as women and human beings. I know we can trust our loved ones to always find us beautiful. But, I encourage all of you to take time and find what that thing may be and I challenge you to make a choice in feeling beautiful.

Well I wish you all the best in your search and I hope I get to hear about your choices!!!

Singing Out,

Fashionista/Marine Wife Reporting to Duty!!!

Officially, Reporting to Duty

Back to reality! My marine has left and now it is just me and the two dogs. This leaves me with a lot of time to write, craft, shop, clean and be creative in all aspects of my life. When he kissed me good-bye and gave me the last hug before he left, I knew that I could not cry. Instead of crying, I looked at the next two weeks as an opportunity for myself to grow.

When a couple is together they often forget who they are as individuals. While my marine was recruiting we were able to grow as a couple and learn how we can make our relationships grow. There were not many nights that we spent apart, and often we were able to spend many special moment together. However, now we are back to field operations, training trips and possible deployments. However, I must understand that this is his job and now I need to decide what I need to do to help myself grow as a person.

This morning I woke up made myself a double cup of Gevalia coffee in my giant Starbucks mug, cut myself a piece of homemade banana bread and sat in the silence. Instead of thinking of how much I miss my Marine I decided to pop in old episodes of Laguna Beach and write. I than began to reminisce on all the other fabulous places that we have had the opportunity to live. San Diego, Chicago, Tennessee and now North Carolina. Right now I am not thinking that North Carolina is that fabulous. Actually, I hate it and I often think about leaving. However, as you know we all have to stick with our Marines (even though it may feel terrible). I know that the ocean is close, but shopping, treasure finding and the people are not that great. I do not mean to be negative, and I hope that eventually I will adapt. However, since I have been here our neighbors have snooped in our back yard and been angry about our fire pit that has yet to be used. Was angry with my Marine, because he took her the mail we received in our mail box. Then another neighbor yelled at me and our two dogs (a shiatsu and teacup multipoo), because they wanted to play with their dog.

Now because we feel like we are being constantly watched and unappreciated I keep our dogs in the back yard at all other times while they are outside, we never light our fire pit, but for some reason we continue to wave to our neighbors, speak to them and take them their mail. Initially I was bitter about their behaviors, but I just keep telling myself that I cannot change their behaviors. Maybe this makes me a better person, but I am only doing it because it makes me feel better.

Ok, well now it is time for me to clean up my Marines gear that he left out on the floor and then take care of myself. Hope ya’ll have a great day!

Signing out,

Marine wife reporting to duty!!!