Amazing 4moms

Amazing 4moms

There are many things in life that I enjoy at a cost to make my life easier. Then there are some items I feel are ridiculously overpriced and overrated. I used to think this next product was in the second category. However, today I am going to discuss the 4moms products and how they have saved my husbands and I’s life….. Or so we think.

When we discovered we were expecting we were overwhelmed with all the things that we THOUGHT we needed to purchase to live with a baby/toddler. Now mind you, when you begin to see the items and the prices you feel overwhelmed and instantly poor. Well this happened to us, and I pretty sure it happens to almost everyone. Luckily, I had my mom and  my big sister to communicate to us what really was NEEDED.

BIG HELP!!

Once, we knew what was needed we were able to regroup and focus on what products we wanted. We went with the products that had the best reviews from the people we knew and the store. Oh, and the best prices. This included a baby swing! All of my life I have heard the importance of a baby swing.

This dates back to when we were little in the 90’s and my parents, aunts and uncles used to call, restarting the baby swing, “cranking the kid”. You might not find this funny, but in my world it is hysterical.  It signifies the sheer importance that a baby swing is VERY critical when simply NOTHING else works.

Sooooo… I had come up with a theme for the babies room, what furniture we were getting and every other product that was needed and my husband ONlY wanted to choose the baby swing. Obviously, he wanted the very new and cool looking 4moms Mommaroo.

This swing has about 5 different directions it swings, make noises and you can hook it up to your phone or iPad to play sounds or music. It also plugs in to an outlet and will go no stop, you don’t have to “crank the kid” because it just GOES.

I still absolutely disagreed because I believed it was too expensive. Well push come to shove, I saved for a few months and on his birthday (what he said he wanted) I surprised him with the swing. Now mind you, I got it off Amazon for a fantastic price using Prime.

However, at this point I was still not convinced of the swing. I thought I had paid too much for something that looked cool and I often cracked jokes. When Theodore arrived it was time to put the swing to use!

IT WAS A MIRACLE.

There would have been many more sleepless nights, but this swing saved our lives. Theodore was not able to lay flat bc of his conditions and often had terrible tummy issues. This machine was perfect because it was at an angle (adjustable), played his favorite ocean sound and soothed his tummy. We used the 4moms Mommaroo so much, we needed another in the bedroom. So we used a coupon and gift cards at Babies R Us to purchase the Rockaroo.

Yes, we have been sucked in and will use 4moms products with all of our children in the future. We have not had one issue thus far and have not dealt with the company directly. We also have not tried any of the other products, but are very interested. However, I have seen great reviews with those that have worked with the company and hope we have the same experience if it does occur.

Again, I understand that the product is expensive and if you already have something you love stick with it. This is just our personal experience with the 4moms products. I just found it my duty to report our positive experience.

image

Mommy in Training

Becoming a mom has been the most wonderful  role I have ever had thus far in my life. However, it has taken some time to fully understand this new life. It has been an adjustment and it wasn’t easy understanding who I am as a mom.

Honestly, the first few months are a blur. I do feel every mommy, in the first couple months, walks around like a zombie hoping to keep their child alive. When it does hit you that you are now a mom, discovering what type of mom you will be is not easy.

Will you breastfeed, will you be a co-sleeper, will you feed them formula, will you try to be a natural momma, will you b-feed in public, will the baby sleep in their crib from the beginning?…..ETC, ETC, ETC. Well let me tell you all those “Plans” seem funny now, because from the day you bring the baby home HE/SHE makes the plans. Your only plan should be to give them everything they need that will make them feel safe, comfortable and develop properly.

Many times the discovery and the rat race is self-defeating. It includes a lot of tears and a good amount of emotional fluctuation which feels like depression(in some cases becomes depression). Sometimes it feels very weird. In example: I am happy I have a baby whom I love to pieces but I feel sad.

First, you have to get used to you body… For me it was this 6″ scar on my lower belly that hurt like hell as I was trying to cope with mother hood. Then you have to wear “normal” clothes when you do leave the house, which is rare but occurs. If you are breastfeeding the tops have to be breastfeeding friendly, which who are we kidding…this was not something we thought about before we were pregnant while shopping.

Then maternity clothes are too big and your “normal” clothes don’t fit right. Oh the dilemma. Then when you think your body is getting closer to “normal” and you are cleared to work out (hopefully you have time or the energy), your hair starts falling out and it is EVERYWHERE. All of these things are very normal parts of post-partum.

In my situation it was all of these things plus trying to figure out Theodore’s health. Many times it was drowning and depressing. I discovered I made no time for myself and began to feel lost. This is when I knew something needed to change.

I learned that sometimes I needed to leave the house or have moments of self meditation. During these times I would get a spray tan, or simply go to the store by myself, take a long walk, have a glass of wine or a bath…WITHOUT the baby in the room. Doing this or wanting alone time does not mean you a bad mom, it just means you are among many women that have to re-evaluate who they are as a mom/person.

When I began doing these things and came to realization with my emotions and self-guilt, I realized I had changed. A lot of who I am still remains, but a good deal of me is different. I still yearn for a lot of the same things I did before, but somethings I would have worried about before mean nothing to me now.

The mom transformation is real and it can be daunting. It involves a lot of self-discovery and sometimes new mommies can’t do it on their own. In this case they get lost in post-partum depression, which is NO joke. If not treated it can lead to a very unhealthy lifestyle and perspective. In this case you need to seek help from a therapist or a professional.

Please don’t feel like you have LOST if you have to get help. Their is no shame in finding yourself and getting help to become a better mommy. Report to duty, for yourself.

I wish all you new mommies the best of luck.

 

 

 

 

 

New Mom, Reporting to Duty

I am back, but this time as a new mom to Theodore Edward Miller. I have been very absent, because I have been learning, coping and developing my niche in motherhood. Not that there are millions of you reading, but I do tell myself someone out there reads this or cares.

So far motherhood has been interesting. It started at 41 weeks when I was induced, and had to have an emergency c- section. Luckily, we both came out safe and healthy. After having to be in the hospital for two days it was time to Go home.

When we got home it was not all easy and restful nights. With in the first four months of his life, Theodore had one surgery that included three procedures. Then we learned he had GERD, Severe Acid Reflux, and milk protein intolerance, a possible ocular albinism and vision problems. It took a while to figure it out, but we were able to with the help of several doctors, medicine, special formula, and specialists. It has been emotional, and hard (often I did not reach out to many bc I did not want to hear a pitty party or that they could relate) but I have learned as a mom you power through and great support is therapeutic.

Now at six months Theodore is 16 lbs 25 inches, he is beginning therapy and we are in the process of resolving his eye issues. There are many things that I never thought I would have to endure or that our son would have to endure before he was 6 months old. I know it could be worse but often I ask….”why us” but I know that God only gives you what you can handle. He must have known what we needed and could handle. Not only did we have to work through this as parents, but how Keith and I would work through it as a couple.

Theodore Edward is a gift and I will, report to duty, every single day to be his mommy. Also, I will do it will all my strength, to be a role model for him.image.jpeg