That MOM Style….I know I am mixing it up a bit but I feel like I really need to touch on this topic.
This photo taken about 4 months ago, when I was in the midst of baby madness and post-partum craze, and physically now where I wanted to be……BUT it shows the essence of MOM Style.
This photo is scary but true….
I see all these fantastic photos of instabloggers on social media….They are momstoo and their houses are cleaned and in pristine condition, their closets are organized, they have perfectly curled hair, and they wear perfectly contoured make-up and most of them are always traveling with their littles.
This isn’t real life….they have to have help… RIGHT??
OR…Am I the only one in the first few months after giving birth….heck even after…..that is falling apart with spit up and milk on my clothes and the only thing I got accomplished for the day, for myself was straightening my hair…
I am trying but I am sure that insta-perfect will never be me….
Before the boys were born I was a shopper, I liked my high priced staple items BUT also finding a deal. I would try to have several cute mix and match pieces. I was into watching and looking for what was “in” and then finding a way to make it my own.
Most of the time I enjoyed being overdressed.
Since having the boys and having my body change and then change again, I was lacking style. And CONFIDENCE….
Plus the budget had to change.
Well, ya know, because we are now buying clothes for two other people…and I LOVE baby clothes.
I mean Momma’s let’s get REAL……
We can’t call yoga pants/sweatpants and a Piko top ….style.
Nonetheless, that was my “uniform”.
For a while I felt unhealthy and lethargic. My style and myself wasn’t on the top of my priority list. I wasn’t sure why I had to wear something cute when I was just chauffeuring my son to therapy, running errands , going to doctors apts, and cleaning and organizing the house.
But now I see how it affected my mood.
Now that Theodore is 1 year, 9 months and Oliver is 8 months, I finally am beginning to find my “mom style”. It is more practical and subtle but I am beginning to have fun again.
I am beginning to accept my imperfect, scared, blemished and YES cellulite body. I now just find pieces that help me feel comfortable in my own skin.
I worry less about what is in style or on the runway, and focus more on what makes me feel beautiful.
I still have my eye on this high priced items, but I either search for them on eBay or other shops where I can get them at a great discount.
Most of the time I try to find items I love just at a great price.
Sometimes, I find an item I love and buy it in EVERY color. I don’t fret as much anymore about the size but how it fits. Before children I may have been ashamed BUT now I DONT CARE.
If I think it’s cute, it fits and it is practical for therapy for Theodore and chasing two boys around………. I buy it.
I still wear many dresses and skirts, ( bc I really hate jeans) but they have to be more flowy and a bit longer.
I still wear jewelry, but it has to be JUST RIGHT so I don’t scratch the boys.
I still wear heels and wedges, but they have to be comfy and just not so high.
I still love purses, but I have resorted to a big diaper bag and a wallet I LOVE!!!
I still wear hats, but I know they may get ripped of by my boys.
Now don’t get me wrong I still DONT wear make-up often, I cut my hair short because you won’t catch me curling it into loose waves, sometimes I forget deodorant, I put dry shampoo in my hair most days, converse are often a part of my outfit, I love black yoga pants, I have clothes I still wear from high school, I repeat many outfits and sometimes still wear yoga pants and work-out clothes bc I feel to tired to change clothes.
I will, Report to Duty, MOST days to put an outfit together. However, I will still have days that I wear comfy ill fitting clothes. From now on I will post my outfit and will always be open to recommendations. Style, shopping and clothes are things I find to be good for my sole and I want to be accountable more often.
I have discovered that in this life I need to find things I enjoy more often and follow through with them MORE OFTEN. I hope you can do the same!
Until Next Time,
Reporting to Duty